Often times we never know the impact we have had on the lives of others. -tM
Perhaps that is because we all experience love from our own unique perspectives. Perhaps it is because we are all damaged in different ways.
We should stop trying to make love into what we think it should be, it’s a higher state of grace that hopefully lives in everything that you do. -tM
“Set wide the window. Let me drink the day.” -Edith Wharton
“The question is, what colour will everything be at that moment when I come for you? What will the sky be saying?” - Markus Zusak, The Book Thief
When you focus your awareness on your breath, nobody can steal your peace. -tM
I have always cared too much, you name it, I cared and connected to it. The days of moving through life with my emotions tugging at my every turn left me exhausted to say the least.
I have always wanted to “not care,” translation: I didn’t want to feel so deeply. So in summation, I am finally getting to this point in my life, the not caring point, and it feels liberating to not have your emotions run your life.
I still care, but I don’t emotionally connect at that deep level anymore and I LOVE IT! Don’t get me wrong, there are still things that stay with me longer then they should, (letting go, and caring, can be synonymous), but that separation between self and others is wonderful. It leaves so much more space for connecting to myself, to the world, and to the moment. I can listen, empathize, comfort, and be there for others, but I no longer take that shit home.
I am also at that stage in my life where self-confidence trumps caring about what others think, and in turn, I will do what I have to do for me, without apologies. And if that sounds selfish,
well, I truly don’t care. -tM
“Freedom is nothing but the chance to be better.” -Albert Calmus
This also applies to changes and growth, when you no longer fit the mould of that friendship or relationship. There is no sadness in leaving what doesn’t work behind. Remember, don’t look back, you aren’t going that way. -tM
“We are who we are, having secretly decided who we would like to be.” - Oscar Wilde
You either got it or you don’t. Charisma could be extremely dangerous for those under the influence. -tM
“Perfectionism is an excuse of being insecure.” -Paul Rudd
I was watching Actors Roundtable a few weeks back when someone quoted Paul Rudd and it made me think about perfectionism in its entirety.
Perfectionism may start out as the above, and it may continue to show its face in such form throughout ones life depending on ones approach. However perfectionism can also be about aesthetics especially in design. It can also mean practice to master an art or subject that one is passionate about.
I guess I realized that in some cases yes, perfectionism has been about hiding my insecurities, yet in other cases it had/has nothing to do with insecurity.
I think it all comes down to this: setting high standards for oneself is totally acceptable, it is what you do with those high standards that opens up the possibility of insecurity that is driven by perfectionism. If you are constantly disappointed and blaming yourself for being less then perfect, well then, I am in total agreement with the statement above.
At the end of the day it all comes down to perspective and approach, but then again, maybe I am not a true bona fide type A perfectionist then.
What are your thoughts on Perfectionism? Do you agree with the statement above? -tM
Making the move
is often hard, but in all actual fact there is no other way. -tM
Wisdom as brought to you by Winne the Pooh.
Such important work to be done in each life. It is my personal belief that there is always reason for the toil. -tM
And that’s the beauty of life. Finding beauty and life in what is left and moving forward. Always moving forward. -tM
“Keep a little fire burning, however small, however hidden.” Cormac McCarthy “The Road”
It is my belief that any form of desire is integral in keeping the source and force of life flowing. May the power of desire no matter how small, move us forward in all of creations manifestations. -tM
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