Title or Creed?

Artist: Unknown

Artist: Unknown

I know many women who want to wear this “crown,” that refuse to be treated any less then the “Queen” they are in life and in relationships.

I will personally never understand this attitude of better than, of needing to be put up on a pedestal. In life I would hate the attention, not to mention that I really believe that as human beings no one is above or beneath anyone, no matter their position in life. Also, putting one on a pedestal can be a very dangerous thing, as even the slightest resemblance to being human with faults, may cause you to fall from grace and result in the dissolve and unravelling of that said relationship. I feel that in relationships NO ONE should be put on a pedestal, or given a title.

I am not adverse to some special treatment and I believe in giving the same in return, as this is your person, however, the idea of being put on a pedestal, met with certain expectations is an invitation for disaster, not to mention the pressure that comes along with fitting into that predetermined role.

Perhaps I am wrong, but being someone’s “King” of “Queen” doesn’t leave much room for personal growth or mistakes in my opinion. However, maybe I am reading too much into the actual title. And maybe it’s just the title that people crave, the feeling of being treated extra special, like a royal without any expectations to follow suit.

I could go on analyzing this need but I will stop here. Just some Saturday morning musings to get the blood flowing while the coffee is brewing. -tM

A Side for you, A Side for Me

Design: Unknown

Design: Unknown

I want to look at you when you speak to me. I want that intimacy, in person, and across from me. I want to fall into those gestures, the details of your face, your own specific qualities. It’s these details that move me, that create a visual intimacy, the things that find there way into memory. At least in my mind. -tM

The Landscape Houses of Alberto Ponis

A series of holiday homes built in the 1960’s melt into the environment that dictated their design.

Swimming Pool at the foot of the house of Costa Gostner.

Swimming Pool at the foot of the house of Costa Gostner.

Stairs dug into the rock of Casa Bak (1968).

Stairs dug into the rock of Casa Bak (1968).

Central Chimney of Sudio di Yasmin (1971), evoking the circular plan of the home.

Central Chimney of Sudio di Yasmin (1971), evoking the circular plan of the home.

Casa di Ivan, a wide tiled home resembling a starfish.

Casa di Ivan, a wide tiled home resembling a starfish.

Casa Hartley almost completely disappears between the rocks and cliffs that overlook the ocean.

Casa Hartley almost completely disappears between the rocks and cliffs that overlook the ocean.

Casa Scalesciana, sits suspended above the sea.

Casa Scalesciana, sits suspended above the sea.

How to Date The French Way

  1. Know the purpose of your “date,” and keep that in mind when choosing your attire. Bring on the allure.

  2. Lingerie is a must, ALWAYS, even while sleeping.

  3. If you kiss one another or sleep together, you are officially together. There is no such thing as “dating” in the French vocabulary.

  4. Create DRAMA in your relationship to keep things exciting, creating tension, and validation. This could also possibly act as a reminder for him/her to not take you for granted. Don’t get to comfortable. Everything is temporary: “I take my bits and my bob’s and I am out!”

Men, what do you think? Women are you up for the French way of dating? I would be interested to hear about the How to Date The French Way from a male perspective. -tM

Paintings & Provocations

Artist: Balthus | Thérese Dreaming, 1938

Artist: Balthus | Thérese Dreaming, 1938

I find this painting enchanting and restorative. I do not understand the controversy around this piece as being disturbing and offensive. There is nothing salacious about it in my view.

I understand all art is subjective and that we cast onto it our own personal gaze of experience, however, to have such a piece censored from show, points to a sad state of affairs in our creative world. Is our culture so terrified of sexually awakened girls, of the interior lives of youth, or perhaps it is ourselves that we fear the most?

All I know is that this painting reminds me of what it means to fall into oneself, to shut out the world in daydream.

So if museums need to warn people of arts content on plaques before entering, so be it, because she is too beautiful not to be seen up close and in person. -tM

Riding the Wave

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Isn’t that always the way though?

When we least resist and get out of our own way, the rhythm of life naturally takes over.

It’s so important to stay connected to the self, and not lose touch. So tough I know, in the business of this world of ours. I read once that the “strongest position you can be in is surrender.” I have surrendered many a time, and truth be told, I have never felt more aligned with life. Surrendering isn’t a form of giving up for me, it is a way of giving way, of letting go, and letting things unfold as they will. It’s giving up the illusion of control. It’s a state of vulnerability that most, in our culture are not comfortable with.

By the way, perfect flow doesn’t mean that your are riding the wave of happiness to no end. There will be ebbs and flows that take you down as much as they raise you up, because, well, that’s life. But the key is letting it happen, and moving through it with the least amount of fight or resistance, so if necessary the mind, body, and soul, are able to process and heal accordingly. -tM

Art, Design, and Philosophy

Some things to ponder alongside your other Monday fascinations:

"A well designed room should look like you could just walk in and be naked anywhere."

"Play with your sexual fantasies and reverse anything that could be destructive into something positive."

"Find your inner woman, or you're not really a man." -Tom Bianchi

Belonging to No One

Photography: Colin Dodgson

Photography: Colin Dodgson

Belonging to no one: there is a sense of freedom that comes along with the knowing and understanding of this truth. You belong to no one, and no one belongs to you,

Just think about it.

No one feels your joys, your pains, your sorrows. No one. They are unique to you.

We exist together through connection but are ultimately alone.

Your life is your life, and solely your responsibility. -tM