Now and Then

 Artist: Peter Doig

Artist: Peter Doig

I often go in and out of my head, daydreaming, writing poetry,  creating cinematic moments while engaging with life through rose coloured glasses. Everything is romanticized, and beauty is found in the simplest of gestures. Even the "ugly" becomes an opportunity to look at the intricacies of the place, face, or situation that I find myself privy to. 

Although yesterday I found myself in my head ruminating on thoughts that I had no desire to revisit, but did. Instead of letting them pass through, to avoid obsessing or going back to places I had no desire to revisit I kept moving. Moving my body in hopes that it would take me out of my head. I sat in the sun, I ran errands, I meditated, I read, yet I still felt somewhat restless. 

I guess sometimes we all of have those days. However I did notice that yesterday's brooding reminded me of how much my life has changed, inner and outer. So I guess sometimes going back, just a little, can also reinforce ones present intentions. -tM

Light My Way

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Dear Nature,

You never cease to amaze me. 

You are incredibly beautiful even in your anger. You are patient and tolerant in ways that we need to be.

You exist simply, beautifully.

You know when to let go and when to unleash your hurt. It is out of desire and purpose that you create.

You hold the basis to our cognitive, spiritual, and aesthetic satisfaction.

I will always feel like a child in your presence. -tM

Photography: tM

 

Urban Landscape Architecture

Roberto Burle Marx is Rio's Picasso of urban garden and landscape architecture.

His garden's are like abstract paintings using local flora as colour. His vision as an artist, and urban space designer not only introduced  modernist landscape architecture to Brazil but made him a sought after landscape architect around the world, he has worked on public spaces in Miami, Malaysia, Argentina, and Pennsylvania, to name a few, providing beauty and dignity for the masses. 

His colourful treatment of pavements, symmetrical use of patterns, local plants, and water, transform an otherwise concrete space into an open-air museum of movement and life. 

A beautiful legacy and inspiration left behind for future city planners and landscape architects alike. One can only hope that they keep moving forward in his creative spirit and preservation of nature in art and in life. -tM

Words of Advice

“Harry’s letter to his 9 year old daughter:

If I could give you just one thing, I’d want it to be a simple truth that took me many years to learn. If you learn it now, it may enrich your life in hundreds of ways. And it may prevent you from facing many problems that have hurt people who have never learned it.

The truth is simply this: No one owes you anything.

Significance

How could such a simple statement be important? It may not seem so, but understanding it can bless your entire life.

No one owes you anything.

It means that no one else is living for you, my child. Because no one is you. Each person is living for himself; his own happiness is all he can ever personally feel.

When you realize that no one owes you happiness or anything else, you’ll be freed from expecting what isn’t likely to be.


It means no one has to love you. If someone loves you, it’s because there’s something special about you that gives him happiness. Find out what that something special is and try to make it stronger in you, so that you’ll be loved even more.

When people do things for you, it’s because they want to — because you, in some way, give them something meaningful that makes them want to please you, not because anyone owes you anything.

No one has to like you. If your friends want to be with you, it’s not out of duty. Find out what makes others happy so they’ll want to be near you.

No one has to respect you. Some people may even be unkind to you. But once you realize that people don’t have to be good to you, and may not be good to you, you’ll learn to avoid those who would harm you. For you don’t owe them anything either.

Living your Life

No one owes you anything.

You owe it to yourself to be the best person possible. Because if you are, others will want to be with you, want to provide you with the things you want in exchange for what you’re giving to them.

Some people will choose not to be with you for reasons that have nothing to do with you. When that happens, look elsewhere for the relationships you want. Don’t make someone else’s problem your problem.

Once you learn that you must earn the love and respect of others, you’ll never expect the impossible and you won’t be disappointed. Others don’t have to share their property with you, nor their feelings or thoughts.

If they do, it’s because you’ve earned these things. And you have every reason to be proud of the love you receive, your friends’ respect, the property you’ve earned. But don’t ever take them for granted. If you do, you could lose them. They’re not yours by right; you must always earn them.

My Experience

A great burden was lifted from my shoulders the day I realized that no one owes me anything. For so long as I’d thought there were things I was entitled to, I’d been wearing myself out —physically and emotionally — trying to collect them.

No one owes me moral conduct, respect, friendship, love, courtesy, or intelligence. And once I recognized that, all my relationships became far more satisfying. I’ve focused on being with people who want to do the things I want them to do.

That understanding has served me well with friends, business associates, lovers, sales prospects, and strangers. It constantly reminds me that I can get what I want only if I can enter the other person’s world. I must try to understand how he thinks, what he believes to be important, what he wants. Only then can I appeal to someone in ways that will bring me what I want.

And only then can I tell whether I really want to be involved with someone. And I can save the important relationships for those with whom I have the most in common.

It’s not easy to sum up in a few words what has taken me years to learn. But maybe if you re-read this gift each Christmas, the meaning will become a little clearer every year.

I hope so, for I want more than anything else for you to understand this simple truth that can set you free: no one owes you anything."

― Harry Browne

Peace

 Cinematography: Le Mepris, 1963

Cinematography: Le Mepris, 1963

The letting go that comes a long with the warm weather reminds us that most of the time all we really need to heal  is sunshine, water, rest, air, exercise, and diet.

Who needs the spa when you make the time to dip your feet into the water, and allow space for balance in your life. -tM

Midsummer Truths

Lone Gentleman

The gay young men and the love-sick girls, 
and the abandoned widows suffering in sleepless delirium, 
and the young pregnant wives of thirty hours, 
and the raucous cats that cruise my garden in the shadows, 
like a necklace of pulsating oysters of sex
surround my lonely residence, 
like enemies lined up against my soul, 
like conspirators in bedroom clothes
who exchange long deep kisses to order. 

The radiant summer leads to lovers
in predictable melancholic regiments, 
made of fat and skinny, sad and happy pairings: 
under the elegant coconut palms, near the ocean and the moon, 
goes an endless movement of trousers and dresses, 
a whisper of silk stockings being caressed, 
and womens breasts that sparkle like eyes. 

The little employee, after it all, 
after the weeks boredom, and novels read by night in bed, 
has definitively seduced the girl next door, 
and carried her away to a run-down movie house
where the heroes are studs or princes mad with passion, 
and strokes her legs covered with soft down
with his moist and ardent hands that smell of cigarettes. 

The seducers afternoons and married peoples nights
come together like the sheets and bury me, 
and the hours after lunch when the young male students
and the young girl students, and the priests, masturbate, 
and the creatures fornicate outright, 
and the bees smell of blood, and the flies madly buzz, 
and boy and girl cousins play oddly together, 
and doctors stare in fury at the young patients husband, 
and the morning hours in which the professor, as if to pass the time, 
performs his marriage duties, and breakfasts, 
and moreover, the adulterers, who love each other truly
on beds as high and deep as ocean liners: 
finally, eternally surrounding me
is a gigantic forest breathing and tangled
with gigantic flowers like mouths with teeth
and black roots in the shape of hooves and shoes. 

-Pablo Neruda

Breaking with Tradition

 Photography: Unknown | Magazine, Nuvo

Photography: Unknown | Magazine, Nuvo

I have always been drawn to asymmetry. There is something very intelligent about being able to make asymmetric patterns work, whether it be in art, fashion, architecture, or design. 

Balance is always a factor, there must be precision in its execution or the irregular outline will look haphazard and mistakenly thrown together.

The wall at Osteria Savio Volpe in Vancouver is an inspiration for me to break away with the traditional hanging of art. I appreciate the off centre lighting, the scale of large panels to small portraiture, hung directly over the leading line sitting regally above its patrons.

The eye wanders in observation, why not let let it contemplate in curiosity. -tM

Out of Office

 Photography: Unknown

Photography: Unknown

I am out of office and could not be happier for it. In that same spirit, I am also setting a theme for this summer of mine:

I plan on embracing the spontaneity of life, and also its idleness. It will be a time of both adventure and impulsiveness as well as practising the art of being silent in observance of everything and nothing around me.  A time to be still in moments when there are no distractions, accepting what is, where I am, and how I feel. 

I look forward to what may be, in present and in future. -tM

A Fine Balance

 Photography: Tadao Ando's Home

Photography: Tadao Ando's Home

When nature and architecture exist in perfect harmony, it allows for a spacial transformation of an organic kind. 

They don't ever have to marry, however architecture has to allow nature the space to flourish, as it must not overwhelm it nor possess it. Good architecture should let nature in. -tM

 

Hot, and Sometimes Bothered

 Photography: Robert Herman Black | SoHo Heat Wave, 1978

Photography: Robert Herman Black | SoHo Heat Wave, 1978

The heat has a profound affect on people. Our senses begin to overflow and drown out the logic. People say and do a lot of things in the summer that they don't mean in the winter. 

As hot summer days turn into nights of relief from the burn of the sun, the humid air finds comfort sitting on the skin, like a wet light, salty, in observance of the days finale.

Amongst the freedom there also comes a frustration as the heat pulses through the city, an ease coupled with a restlessness that is summer deep. 

The experience always proves to be different from the memory. -tM

Hold Your Moment

“I look back on those days and regret none of it, not the risks, not the shame, not the total lack of foresight. The lyric cast of the sun, the teeming fields with tall plants nodding away under the intense mid afternoon heat, the squeak of our wooden floors, or the scrape of the clay ashtray pushed ever so lightly on the marble slab that used to sit on my nightstand. I knew that our minutes were numbered, but I didn't dare count them, just as I knew where all this was headed, but I didn't care to read the signposts. This was a time when I intentionally failed to drop bread crumbs for my return journey; instead, I ate them. He could turn out to be a creep; he could change me or ruin me forever, while time and gossip might ultimately disembowel everything we shared and trim the whole thing down till nothing but fish bones remained. I might miss this day, or I might do far better, but I'd always know that on those afternoons in my bedroom I had held my moment.” 
  - André Aciman, Call Me By Your Name

Sometimes you have to let your heart take the lead, no matter how foolish or impetuous the decision. Life is built on moments of exploration and bravery. In the attempt to act out our desires we also free ourselves of any conjectures. -tM