Single-Self Time

Photography: Helmut Newton

Photography: Helmut Newton

How do you spend your "me" time? What does self care or when no one is around behaviour look like for you?

Single time whether you are in a relationship or not is extremely important, especially for women, as I feel like we are always, in many respects, tending to others needs while we often put ours on the back burner.

It is important to sit with ourselves, in observation, we have so many sides to ourselves that are important to get to know. 

I know that time is a luxury, however, the next time you find yourself aimlessly sitting in front of the television set, or surfing the net, think about what what you need to recharge your soul and then slowly begin incorporating it into your life.

As we are ever changing and ever evolving, I know that the recipe will change from time to time, while the basic ingredients may remain the same, however it is crucial that we take care and spend time with the "third character face and self" that the Japanese believe we show now one, so that we may continue to be healthy and fulfilled human beings. -tM

*(The Japanese say you have three faces. The first face, you show to the world. The second face, you show to your close friends, and your family. The third face, you never show anyone).

A New Year

Photography: Helmut Newton | St. Tropez, 1976

Photography: Helmut Newton | St. Tropez, 1976

I have set my 9 intentions for this year,

they are simple aims that I hope to make into realities. I have never concerned myself with the larger picture of life, I have always figured that the broader concept of being, depended on the specifics of life, such as the small details and choices made along the way that aid in shaping our wide reaching reality.

Ultimately we are just here for the ride, to navigate the waves, and hopefully learn an important lesson or two.

My hope for 2018 is that there is less navigation and more coasting. Sometimes it is just nice to let go and feel what it's like to float away on waters that run smooth. -tM


Part of the Sizzle

What ever happened to the art of seduction?

In this instant gratification of the take me here and now, and throw away culture, there is little room or time left for enticing someone into sexual activity. 

A proper seduction needs obstacles, it needs resistance, it cannot proceed without them.

It's about engagement and feeling emotionally alive. Things have become too easy. 

The creativity, mystery, and intellect of the art and maneuver have been lost.

A sign of the times? I certainly hope not. 

What do you think? Is seduction a thing of the past, lost on the generations to come? -tM

Photography: Helmut Newton | Polariod's, 1970's


The Chauffeur

A 1979 B-side track and video that was censored for many years. 

Inspired by the film The Night Porter and Helmut Newton's photography, the sensuous dance at the end is a homage to Charlotte Rampling's topless "Dance of the Seven Veils" in The Night Porter.

Hauntingly seductive in mood and melody, and erotically charged, this video is a timeless piece of cinematic art. -tM

(Thanks B.)

Looking Forward

Photography: Helmut Newton | Pool Boy

Photography: Helmut Newton | Pool Boy

This is the time of year,

that I turn by back on the year that was. You see, September is the beginning of my new year, and the end of August is when I reflect on the years events and affairs. Yes, there are "plans" for the year ahead and insights will be carried over from the last, but most significantly this new year is about freeing my mind, and in turn my body, with the soul, being at the centre of the entire initiative.

September is always filled with adjustments, there is a palpable shift that comes with the change of seasons, and or routine.

As maudlin as I can be about seeing the summer take a step back I am also as equally inspired by autumns ability to effortlessly let go of what is no longer needed. The seasons are full of lessons, and so is every new year.

Happy New Beginnings. -tM


At Long Last

Yes boys, Summer is here.

As the temperatures rise, let your inhibitions dissolve. In liberation we peel our layers of clothing away like a second skin; in hopes of feeling lighter, literally and metaphorically. Moved by the  anticipation of feeling the wind, sun, and rain on our skin we emerge slightly more aware of ourselves in relation to the world, connecting us to what little faith we have left and perhaps even allowing the summer to wash away some of our own cynicism.

It is hopeful, summer that is. Life's vibration has elevated.  Remain open to it, one never knows what the magic of summer may bring your way. -tM

Photography: Helmut Newton | August

Narrative Depth

Photography: Helmut Newton | Nice, 1984

I can relate to this photograph on many levels. Helmut Newton's photography is less polished, he is always leaving room for imperfection. The gap between the camera and the subject takes on a sense of reality even if it is an alternate reality, as he has removed the glossy barrier of the voyeuristic experience. As an observer we can place ourselves in the very idea of that moment.

I love the notion of freedom and nostalgia that this photograph conveys to me. There is a letting go that perhaps doesn't happen on a daily basis, the detail and contrasts of her neck, adorned in layers of pearls juxtaposed with her semi-nude figure, accentuate that concept even more so.

There is something great and understated about this piece. I think we could all learn a thing or two about letting go of the idealized perfections of life in order to allow the lessons and the joys of the imperfections the opportunity to prosper. It is within that space that life is allowed to truly grow and progress.

And yes, I got all of this from a photograph. -tM

Le Smoking

Two of a kind. The tuxedo in my opinion is the closest a man gets to wearing a uniform. Generally it is standard, generic in style, in cut and accessories,  yet sexy because the man wears the tuxedo like a uniform, it doesn't wear him. You can be swimming in a sea of these suits and yet everyone wears them differently. That is the beauty of the tuxedo. You become the desirable and coveted item, not the suit itself.

The uniformed tuxedo takes on an entirely different meaning for women who choose this formal way of dress. It is the epitome of sex-appeal. YSL introduced the world to Le Smoking in 1966 when the perception of women wearing pants was still considered eccentric. Ironically enough there is something ultra feminine and potently sensual about a woman choosing to wear the male uniform. Symbolic of confidence and female sexual empowerment,  back in the day it was considered scandalous for a woman to wear a man's suit (see Marlene Dietrich), it was a way of pushing necessary boundaries. The suit itself has the potential to simultaneously turn on both men and women. It has become an article of clothing representative of female emancipation. Women have taken possession of man's attire and found freedom in dress, letting go of their fragility and embracing their sexual authoritativeness.

Of course it took the time the world to adjust. Le smoking wasn't accepted by the mass populace until well into the mid 70's. It was even banned from restaurants.

So the next time someone tells you that fashion is all about frivolity, you can bring up the example of Le Smoking and give them a little history lesson on the psychology of dress.

Thank you YSL and Helmut Newton for the fashion leverage. xo -tM

Photography: Vicki King & Helmut Newton

In Case of Desire, Break Window

Photography: Helmut Newton | Vogue 1977

Photography: Helmut Newton | Vogue 1977

The composition of this photograph left me contemplating the world of secret longings, unrequited desires, and  the power of ones sexuality.

I am invited into a world of contrasts and oppositions. There is a clear reaching out and longing which is reciprocated with only a gaze, the juxtaposition of the light and dark of the space and skin tones, the movement of water to land, from a reminiscent Victorian fainting pose to a stoic stance. The vantage point of this visual narrative is evocative of a voyeuristic affair one might find themselves privy too.

Erotically charged, I want to bare witness to the account of desire I am left observing.

I want to know their intimate thoughts.

What about you?



Make No Apologies

1970's | Photography: Helmut Newton

Make no apologies for who you are. If there is anything I have come to understand as I continue to make my way through this life is just that. We as women in particular struggle with this more then our male counter parts for various different reasons.  Regardless of gender, sexual orientation, creed, or religion, one should never be made to feel less then for who they are, and how they choose to live their lives.

I have struggled with this most of my life. I have never truly lived freely. At times I seemed  to be meticulous about the frequency of my apologies. Responsible in life, the desire to please others, the fear of being judged, and the need to be accepted by my peers, and family became the foundation for my insecurities at a very young age. And then things slowly began to change.

The journey continues to be great, and the courage to live my life as I choose is synonymous with the fearless relationship I am still forging with myself and the world. It really does become about being courageous enough to allow your vulnerability and true self to exist autonomously from the expectations of others. And yes, eyebrows will rise, and heads will turn, but I will continue to make no apologies. I hope you will do the same.