Ride it to the Rhythm

Photography: Bruce Davidson | Summer Love, NYC Subway, 1980’s

Photography: Bruce Davidson | Summer Love, NYC Subway, 1980’s

There is something easy about summer loving. Its intensity and passion are met with ephemeral ease. Perhaps that should be our approach to love all of the time, moving with it in transience, bending as it bends, paying attention to the seasonal shifts and the moods that follow.

Summertime, when livin’ and lovin’ is easy. -tM

That Time was like Never, and like Always

Photography: Unknown

Photography: Unknown

The communion with nature is so immense that any words used to describe its sanctity fall short.

The other day I took my shoes off and walked through the grass. I needed to feel the soil beneath my concrete treading feet, and in that moment, I felt time dissipate, it was like never, and like always. I need to faithfully nurture that connection to creation; where nothing is waiting. Sometimes when nothing is waiting we find everything. -tM

Perfectly Not Perfect?

“Perfectionism is an excuse of being insecure.” -Paul Rudd

I was watching Actors Roundtable a few weeks back when someone quoted Paul Rudd and it made me think about perfectionism in its entirety.

Perfectionism may start out as the above, and it may continue to show its face in such form throughout ones life depending on ones approach. However perfectionism can also be about aesthetics especially in design. It can also mean practice to master an art or subject that one is passionate about.

I guess I realized that in some cases yes, perfectionism has been about hiding my insecurities, yet in other cases it had/has nothing to do with insecurity.

I think it all comes down to this: setting high standards for oneself is totally acceptable, it is what you do with those high standards that opens up the possibility of insecurity that is driven by perfectionism. If you are constantly disappointed and blaming yourself for being less then perfect, well then, I am in total agreement with the statement above.

At the end of the day it all comes down to perspective and approach, but then again, maybe I am not a true bona fide type A perfectionist then.

What are your thoughts on Perfectionism? Do you agree with the statement above? -tM

4 Simple Ways to Help Bring Balance to Your Life

Photography: Weaver Cameron Barksdale

Photography: Weaver Cameron Barksdale

  1. Simplify your day. Make a conscious effort not to plan too many things, finish one task before you move on to the other, and be in the moment.

  2. Make Nutrition a Priority. Make sure to feed and nourish yourself with good foods for your particular body and its needs. The gut is the fuel for our entire engine and if that is not working properly neither can you.

  3. Sleep Well. Lower your lights and turn off your devices at a certain time every night. Find what works for you in terms of letting go. If there is a ritual you would like to add such as a hot bath, a soothing shower, or perhaps meditation for a sense of closure on your day it is important to do so.

  4. Notice Your Thoughts. The reality is that there will always be stressful situations, however it is within our control to be able to vary our response to such outside factors. We can either add intensity to them or in turn reduce there effects. Remember that the degree of stress is a perception and that everything is temporary.

These are paraphrased suggestions by Dr. Pratima Raichur with a few additional thoughts.

Beauty Refresh

I was drawn to these photo’s because they reveal a face not so hidden by layers of make-up and Photoshop magic. I appreciate the lines and graceful bags under her eyes, the shadows of light and dark.

I think North America is in dire need of a beauty refresh. I don’t know how we got here, but we did, and it is a sad as well as ugly reality. Somehow in this process of liberating ourselves as women we have also allowed ourselves to be confined and even chained to this youthful, perfect face.

There is nothing wrong with looking like you have lived. I find the living face an incredibly beautiful and graceful face.

Perfectionism is a myth, an excuse for being insecure. It’s time to go inward for many reasons, great things always begin from the inside. -tM

Photography: Porter Magazine

Sunday Ease

Cinematography: Sayombhu Mukdeeprom |  Call Me By Your Name

Cinematography: Sayombhu Mukdeeprom | Call Me By Your Name

Even though we have become a secular society where Sunday’s are no longer “God’s” day of rest, where businesses are forced to remain closed and family time is a requirement (boy do I remember how boring a Sunday could be as a child, quoting Morrissey as an appropriate reference “Everyday is like Sunday, everyday is silent and grey” because that is exactly how it felt, dull, grey, and boring; lazing around all day trying to amuse oneself with play and fascination). Anyway, I digress…

As an adult, I find that I still hold onto those lazy Sunday’s as a way of life, a space for letting go, and connecting to what matters and to those I love. I consciously take it slow on a Sunday. It’s become a way of life. It is a day that I reserve solely for myself and for things that matter to me. It is my day of rest.

How about you, how do you spend your Sunday? -tM