The broken heart: an inevitable occurrence and a right of passage no matter what your age.
I have always thought that it was a necessary phenomenon, that there are plenty of good things that come from an injured heart, if you so choose to approach it in such a way: lessons, self-reflection, personal growth, and perhaps even a change in the way one lives their life.
During Medieval Times before the capability of Science, individuals believed that the heart was the centre of all things. That decisions were made based on how we felt, that the body moved voluntarily/involuntarily due to the heart and its body driving life force. A lot of attention was paid to the way one felt, to their emotions, and ailments were diagnosed based on the understanding of ones feelings.
Flash forward to the Scientific Revolution where the heart was dismissed for that of the mighty brain. As the brain took centre stage, the heart merely became a secondary player. We were now asked to listen to our brains as opposed to our heart. One was the seat of logic while the other was the seat of emotion, which according to Science, were two separate organs that at times seemed to be working against each other.
Most recently, the Scientific community is finding that the heart-brain correlation is more significant then we ever thought. That the heart speaks to the brain more then we realize. When the heart breaks, when it is in pain, or one gets emotionally upset, its rhythm changes, and that in turn sends a message to the brain that affects its higher decision making processes. There is no real separation. So when someone says, “Listen to your heart, or use your logic” truly they are one in the same. Science is now starting to believe that most of the information we process is emotionally regulated by the heart anyway, that in turn sends messages to the brain.
So in short, take care of your heart, be Medieval about it, listen to it, but also set it free. Let it move in and out of heart break, there is a higher-learning that takes place in such circumstances. And trust it, really be attentive, because it always knows, whether you are in denial about it or not, it is the centre of your emotional and spiritual being.
Your heart is King, pay attention to its voice, and let your mind be the advisor, its a symbiotic relationship, one is nothing without the other. -tM
I think there should always be a spotlight on love. -tM
Sometimes to experience an expansion of self you have to connect to others. Intimacy and love allow you to become more then what you are by inclusion. -tM
There is something easy about summer loving. Its intensity and passion are met with ephemeral ease. Perhaps that should be our approach to love all of the time, moving with it in transience, bending as it bends, paying attention to the seasonal shifts and the moods that follow.
Summertime, when livin’ and lovin’ is easy. -tM
Perhaps that is because we all experience love from our own unique perspectives. Perhaps it is because we are all damaged in different ways.
We should stop trying to make love into what we think it should be, it’s a higher state of grace that hopefully lives in everything that you do. -tM
Love itself isn’t complicated, it is the relationship that we have with ourselves that is. When love comes to town, what is your approach? Do you embrace its flame or do you extinguish its light in the name of self-sabotage? -tM
The cynic in me thinks that these words are just a ploy to have you take off all your clothes, yet the romantic in me wants to believe in this kind of forever after. -tM
The cultivation of Intimacy, whether it be through friendships, lovers, family, or with yourself, that is the way to love. An intimate inclusion that allows you to become more then what you are. It is worth every effort; every heartbreak. It is growth by fire. -tM
She tells her love while half asleep
She tells her love while half asleep,
In the dark hours,
With half-words whispered low:
As Earth turns in her winter sleep
And puts out grass and flowers
Despite the snow,
Despite the falling snow.
“There’s a Japanese phrase that I like: koi no yokan. It doesn’t mean love at first sight. It’s closer to love at second sight. It’s the feeling when you meet someone that you’re going to fall in love with them. Maybe you don’t love them right away, but it’s inevitable that you will.” -Nicola Yoon, The Sun Is Also a Star
Leaning on and finding support in one another lightens the burden of life. -tM
“…but friendship has something I hope love has too: respect for others’ freedom. It’s not possessive.” -Éric Rohmer
Athens-based filmmaker Thanasis Tsimpinis’s poetic portrait of two lovers—entwined with a story about a deer.
“LOVE does not BEGIN or END the way seem to THINK it does. LOVE is a BATTLE, LOVE is a WAR, LOVE is a GROWING-UP.” -James Baldwin